Change Is Good (Even When You Didn’t Ask for It)

If you had asked for change, you probably would’ve picked a glow-up, not a breakup, job shake-up, or unexpected life plot twist. Yet here you are, staring down a season of change you didn’t exactly order, wondering if this is growth… or just chaos in a trench coat.

Here’s the truth most people don’t say out loud: change is uncomfortable because it works. It disrupts patterns that were familiareven when those patterns were quietly draining you.

As a counsellor who works with people navigating major life transitions, I see this every day. Divorce, career changes, demotions, relocations, identity shifts—these moments don’t just rearrange logistics. They challenge who you thought you were and who you thought you’d be by now.

That can feel unsettling. But it can also be the beginning of something surprisingly good.

Why Change Feels So Awkward at First

Change often comes with grief, even when it’s positive. You’re letting go of:

• An old routine

• A familiar role

• A version of yourself that made sense at the time

Your nervous system hasn’t caught up yet. It’s still asking, “Wait… are we safe?”

That’s not failure. That’s biology.

The Hidden Gift Inside Life Transitions

Here’s what people rarely talk about: change creates space.

Space to:

• Rebuild routines that actually support you

• Make choices aligned with who you are now

• Stop over-functioning in systems that no longer fit

In short-term, intensive counselling, this is often where momentum happens fastest. When the old structure falls away, clarity has room to show up.

You Don’t Need to Reinvent Yourself

Despite what social media says, you don’t need a new personality, career, or haircut (unless you want one). Most people don’t need reinvention—they need recalibration.

Change doesn’t erase who you are. It refines it.

And yes, sometimes it gets better faster than you expect.