Three Things I Wish Women Going Through Divorce Knew

✨ Don’t skip this phase of healing after your breakup—it’s the most powerful ✨

A rebound relationship might be looking really good right now. Or maybe it’s nightly Netflix binges with a side of social media scrolling. Or throwing yourself into work. None of this is *bad* for the record, but we just need to be careful we don’t numb out too hard, for too long. Being present in this sucks but it’s needed. So journal, call a friend, book in therapy, schedule a weekend away or sign up to run a 5k. Any of these things lets you talk about, think about, work through and heal.

✨ The grief you're feeling? It’s valid. Even if you wanted the divorce ✨

Look, no one wanted this. This is not how it was *supposed* to turn out. You wanted a happy ending and there is grief in what didn’t happen too, even if you were the one to pull the plug first. You’ve been let down, hurt and now maybe feeling guilty or resentful. Normal, normal, normal. Feel those things, and better get. Name them. Studies show the better we get at naming our emotions, the less impact they have on us. (You can google “emotion wheel” and it will help you come up with more specific emotions.

✨ Your nervous system is still recovering. Be gentle with her ✨

This is A LOT. It is. Maybe you are barreling full steam ahead into the next chapter, maybe you’re a fixer or a planner and you want this done and dusted. I get that in my bones. BUT. Please remember to be gentle with yourself too. Ending a partnership is life altering in all ways. Who your friends are. Where you vacation. How you spend your weekends. Your financial health. I could go on and on. So yes, you want to feel better yesterday but that may not be possible right now. And that’s okay.

✨ Life is going to be SO good again ✨

This is the biggest thing I wish you knew. This is such a hard phase and it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. But it’s going to come. I promise. In the meantime, buy yourself some bright furniture that you always had to compromise on, take the trip to the place he didn’t want to go, sign up for the course that will expand and excite you.

You are going to come out so much stronger and you will know yourself on a whole new level.